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The Be Fab Blog is your place for discussion with articles on a variety of topics including dating and relationships, school, health and wellness, inspiration, news, social media, fashion and style as well as real-life advice.

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Social Media: Don't Believe The Hype

Ashley Jefferson

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Social media is everywhere. Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, Facebook – whichever you prefer, most of us login to at least one of these apps every day and probably multiple times a day. (Yes, I’m guilty too!) We often lose track of how many times we swipe, like, retweet and comment – as we scroll through and refresh our newsfeeds. Social media can be fun – we use it to stay in touch with friends and family, share funny videos, stay up to date on celebrities and sports teams that we like and of course post some selfies and snaps of our own.

However social media can also be a bad thing especially when we let it consume us. Do we spend more time online than doing work? Are we more likely to remember who commented on our photo rather than what we ate for breakfast? Even worst, are we letting social media affect how we feel about ourselves? For instance, if someone posted a selfie and it got more likes than yours – would you let that cause you to question how you look? Or maybe a friend posted a picture in an expensive car, would that make you jealous – even a little bit?

2 Corinthians 10:12 (AMP) says “[…] When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they lack wisdom and behave like fools.”

Just think about it, if you found out that the expensive car in the photo was just a rental or maybe that the selfie was photoshopped, would you feel kind of foolish being jealous? One thing we fail to realize a lot of times is that what people post on social media isn’t always accurate.  I’m not saying that everything that’s posted online is fake but at the end of the day, we all pick and choose what parts of our lives we want to share or not and people can decide to share the truth or to make things up to make their life appear better.

Social media is great - but we can’t be consumed by it and we can’t use it as a means to measure our self-worth. Remember, our worth comes from God and with Him, there’s no comparison.

New Year, New Me?

Ashley Jefferson

"New year, new me!" How many times did you or someone you know say those exact words at the start of a new year. There were probably good intentions behind it and maybe we really want to but how often do we actually change? 

Each year we tell ourselves that next year will be different. We're gonna finally lose weight, we're gonna do better in school, we're gonna really focus on God more, we're gonna do this and we're gonna do that. However, a lot of us end the year in the same place we started - not having made any progress towards bettering ourselves, growing as a person and accomplishing our goals and the cycle continues.  

But why? Why is it that, according to statistics, only 8% of us who make new year's resolutions are actually successful in keeping them? Is it that out goals are too big? Is it that we don't really try? Or maybe because we don't consider everything that it takes.

Anything worth having is worth making sacrifices for. Take professional athletes for example. To be able to make it to the Olympics is a great accomplishment and that's the part we see on the outside. What we don't see are the things they have to give up in order to reach their goal.

Whether it's losing weight or growing closer to God, we can't move forward if we're still holding onto old things. We have to actually let some things go.

Philippians 3:13 (NLT) says “No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,”

Moving forward requires sacrifice. That means we have to really make up our minds to let go of old habits, old friends, old thoughts, old attitudes and old ways and leave them behind us 2016. Then we can really say "New year, new me" and mean it. 

 

 

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Amy's Tragic Death: Something Has To Change

Ashley Jefferson

Up until last week, 16-year-old Amy Inita Joyner-Francis was just a normal teenage girl but that all changed on one fateful morning. On Thursday, April 21st Amy, a student at Howard High School of Technology in Delaware, was brutally beaten by a group of girls in the school bathroom. She was so badly injured that she was rushed to an area hospital where she died. 

I'm sure Amy, her family and friends never would've imagined her life coming to an end so soon and so violently. She was beaten to death at her school seemingly at the hands of her fellow classmates allegedly over a boy and it was even caught on cell phone video. There are so many things that make Amy's death such a tragedy.

First, Amy lost her life at the hands of other female students. Being catty or petty is a not so flattering category that unfortunately too many of us females fall into. It's not unheard of to have young girls (and even older women) fighting, arguing and bickering usually over something not worth it in the long run. We have enough in this world that degrades and belittles us. No we may not always get along with each other but regardless as females we should strive not to tear each other down, but to build each other up.

Secondly, the fight was allegedly over a boy. Girls fighting over boys is not new. It probably happens at high schools across America almost every day. However how many of those incidents end with a young girl losing her life? NO BOY is worth fighting over. Contrary to what you may believe when you're a starry eyed teenager, boys really do come and go. He may like you today and then like the next girl tomorrow. Who cares! You're in high school and have far more important things to focus on. A boy is not worth jeopardizing your future and for those involved, it definitely wasn't worth Amy losing her life.

Last but not least, it was caught on video. Fights and other tragedies being caught on video is a sad sign of the world we live in. Youtube, Vine, Instagram and other social media platforms are flooded with them. People often post, repost, watch and like these videos and sometimes they even go viral as they are viewed as entertaining and funny. There is NOTHING funny or entertaining about teenagers, children (and even adults) fighting each other like animals. The truth is it's sick - it's sick that instead of calling for help, people are more inclined to use their phones to record someone else getting hurt. In Amy's case, it's sick that someone would find it amusing to record what turned out to be the last few moments of a young girl's life.

We can agree that Amy's death was indeed a tragedy - it's touched people all across the globe. People are mourning, people are speaking out about it, but the truth is eventually many people, except those who were closest to her, will move on. The story will fade from the headlines and then what? We can't wait until another tragedy strikes to decide enough is enough. Somehow, someway we have to do something to solve what's become a sad norm in our society. We can't just talk about it, we have to step up and do something about it and it has to start now - before another parent has to bury their child because of senseless violence. 

What Kind of Reflection Are You?

Ashley Jefferson

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Growing up my mom would say "Remember who you are and to whom you belong."

She would often say this whenever I was going somewhere - whether it was to the mall with friends, maybe out with a guy, or even when I went away to college.

As my parent, she knew that she did her best to teach me right from wrong and to instill in me high standards and morals.

My actions, no matter where I go, ultimately reflect how I was raised and this phrase of hers was basically my mom's way of reminding me not to forget all I've been taught.

As a child, I used to think this saying only applied to me being a reflection of my parents. However as I got older, I realized that I can look at it also as it applies to God.

Genesis 1:27 says "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them."

God created us in His image and that means we are a reflection of Him too.That's pretty big but the problem is how often have we kept this in mind?

Think about the last time you did something you knew was wrong but chose to do anyway? In doing whatever it was, what kind of reflection were you?

And that's a question we should keep in mind daily: What kind of reflection am I? Because it'll help us everywhere we go and in everything we do, to remember who we are and to Whom we belong.

 

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