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The Be Fab Blog is your place for discussion with articles on a variety of topics including dating and relationships, school, health and wellness, inspiration, news, social media, fashion and style as well as real-life advice.

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Social Media: Don't Believe The Hype

Ashley Jefferson

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Social media is everywhere. Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, Facebook – whichever you prefer, most of us login to at least one of these apps every day and probably multiple times a day. (Yes, I’m guilty too!) We often lose track of how many times we swipe, like, retweet and comment – as we scroll through and refresh our newsfeeds. Social media can be fun – we use it to stay in touch with friends and family, share funny videos, stay up to date on celebrities and sports teams that we like and of course post some selfies and snaps of our own.

However social media can also be a bad thing especially when we let it consume us. Do we spend more time online than doing work? Are we more likely to remember who commented on our photo rather than what we ate for breakfast? Even worst, are we letting social media affect how we feel about ourselves? For instance, if someone posted a selfie and it got more likes than yours – would you let that cause you to question how you look? Or maybe a friend posted a picture in an expensive car, would that make you jealous – even a little bit?

2 Corinthians 10:12 (AMP) says “[…] When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they lack wisdom and behave like fools.”

Just think about it, if you found out that the expensive car in the photo was just a rental or maybe that the selfie was photoshopped, would you feel kind of foolish being jealous? One thing we fail to realize a lot of times is that what people post on social media isn’t always accurate.  I’m not saying that everything that’s posted online is fake but at the end of the day, we all pick and choose what parts of our lives we want to share or not and people can decide to share the truth or to make things up to make their life appear better.

Social media is great - but we can’t be consumed by it and we can’t use it as a means to measure our self-worth. Remember, our worth comes from God and with Him, there’s no comparison.

New Year, New Me?

Ashley Jefferson

"New year, new me!" How many times did you or someone you know say those exact words at the start of a new year. There were probably good intentions behind it and maybe we really want to but how often do we actually change? 

Each year we tell ourselves that next year will be different. We're gonna finally lose weight, we're gonna do better in school, we're gonna really focus on God more, we're gonna do this and we're gonna do that. However, a lot of us end the year in the same place we started - not having made any progress towards bettering ourselves, growing as a person and accomplishing our goals and the cycle continues.  

But why? Why is it that, according to statistics, only 8% of us who make new year's resolutions are actually successful in keeping them? Is it that out goals are too big? Is it that we don't really try? Or maybe because we don't consider everything that it takes.

Anything worth having is worth making sacrifices for. Take professional athletes for example. To be able to make it to the Olympics is a great accomplishment and that's the part we see on the outside. What we don't see are the things they have to give up in order to reach their goal.

Whether it's losing weight or growing closer to God, we can't move forward if we're still holding onto old things. We have to actually let some things go.

Philippians 3:13 (NLT) says “No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,”

Moving forward requires sacrifice. That means we have to really make up our minds to let go of old habits, old friends, old thoughts, old attitudes and old ways and leave them behind us 2016. Then we can really say "New year, new me" and mean it. 

 

 

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What Kind of Reflection Are You?

Ashley Jefferson

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Growing up my mom would say "Remember who you are and to whom you belong."

She would often say this whenever I was going somewhere - whether it was to the mall with friends, maybe out with a guy, or even when I went away to college.

As my parent, she knew that she did her best to teach me right from wrong and to instill in me high standards and morals.

My actions, no matter where I go, ultimately reflect how I was raised and this phrase of hers was basically my mom's way of reminding me not to forget all I've been taught.

As a child, I used to think this saying only applied to me being a reflection of my parents. However as I got older, I realized that I can look at it also as it applies to God.

Genesis 1:27 says "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them."

God created us in His image and that means we are a reflection of Him too.That's pretty big but the problem is how often have we kept this in mind?

Think about the last time you did something you knew was wrong but chose to do anyway? In doing whatever it was, what kind of reflection were you?

And that's a question we should keep in mind daily: What kind of reflection am I? Because it'll help us everywhere we go and in everything we do, to remember who we are and to Whom we belong.

 

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No! For Our Own Good

Ashley Jefferson


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Think about when you were younger and your parents said "no" to that toy you wanted at the store or "no" to staying up past your bedtime or "no" to having candy for breakfast. Not happy with the answer, most kids would probably kick, scream and cry in hopes of getting their way.

Now fast forward to present day and maybe you heard "no" to the job you interviewed for or maybe you heard "no" from the college you applied to or maybe you got a "no" to something you've been praying for.

"No" isn't a word we like to hear at any age especially when it's regarding something we want. But the reality also is that at some point or another, there are a number of ways we will be told "no" in life. And as much as we might want to throw a tantrum like a little kid, we know that's not an option.

Often time hearing "no" can sting and we are left feeling disappointed and rejected. However if we change our perspective, hearing "no" isn't always a bad thing. In fact, sometimes rejection can be a blessing in disguise.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

We may not always understand it when it happens but know that inasmuch as God opens doors that no one can shut, He also shuts doors that no one can open. Just like a good parent, His plan is never to hurt us by saying "no." Instead, when He closes a door, it's to lead us to something much better - the open door He's had waiting for us all along.

 

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Pretty Is As Pretty Does

Ashley Jefferson

You ever met someone and their outfit of the day was fabulous from head to toe but their attitude was horrible and you're left thinking, "How could someone so pretty be so ugly? It reminds me a lot of the phrase "Pretty is as pretty does." I remember hearing some variation of that saying as a kid but it wasn't until I got a little older that it really made sense. 

For all the girls out there who spend the majority of their day in front of a mirror or taking selfies, I've got news for ya - looks aren't everything. No matter how much effort we put into how we look, it's our personality, our character and how we treat people that determines whether or not they want to be around us. 

Yes God created us beautifully and there is nothing wrong with embracing that in our style, hair and makeup. However it becomes a big problem when we put so much effort into the outside that we neglect the inside.

The Bible says in Proverbs 31:30, "Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."

Ladies we are so much more than our looks. Yes...I'm talking to you - you are more than your 22 inch Brazilian weave, more than your favorite Mac lipstick, more than your fresh out the salon manicure, more than your straight off the runway clothes - yes you are so much more than all of that.

The saying is true - "It's what's on the inside that counts." And nothing counts more on the inside than Jesus Christ. A true relationship with God is the first place you should start. With Him, your true beauty will shine from the inside out.

 

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Don't Put Your Selfie At Risk

Ashley Jefferson

Selfies, they're all fun and games right? That is until somebody gets hurt.

According to Mashable, a new report says that in 2015, selfies have killed more people than sharks! This year alone, 12 people have died in selfie accidents, compared to only eight people who have died from shark attacks.

The average person may take a quick photo while on vacation, maybe out with friends, or maybe because they like their outfit of the day. But nowadays you'll find people going to great lengths just to get the right shot.

Some people have taken selfies with wild animals, high in the air, or even with weapons. Sadly in the world we live in, many of these photos have gone viral. What's sadder though is that lives are being put at risk and even worse, some lives have even been lost...all in the name of a selfie.

I'm sure the 12 people who have died this year, as well as the 11 others who died in 2014,  didn't anticipate their actions leading to death. But in light of that, it reminds us that life is precious. Life is a gift from God - something that we should not take for granted and that we should handle with care.

And when you're willing to put your life in danger, all to take a "cool selfie," it begs the question, is the risk really worth it?

 

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Be Careful What You Say

Ashley Jefferson

Have you ever listened to someone talk and every other word was a curse word? Maybe they were telling a story about something, maybe they were arguing with someone, maybe they were just singing along to their favorite song?

This might offend some people but...cursing doesn't make you grown, it doesn't make you cool, it doesn't make you a lady, and it's just not cute. People try to justify it saying that sometimes it's necessary to get your point across but the reality it...it's just wrong.

James 3:10 says, "Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren these things ought not to be so." 

Think about it: Yes, God gave us a mouth to speak with but why would He want us to use it for negative things like cursing, talking about someone, making fun of someone, etc? God intended us to use our words in a positive way and that's what we need to do.

I understand that, like many other things, it can be a hard habit to break. However I challenge you the next time you get mad or the next time you want to tell someone off, to think twice and choose your words carefully.

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Life Is Too Short To Waste

Ashley Jefferson

How many times have you heard, "Oh but you're young - you have your whole life ahead of you." 

When you're young, it's very easy to take life for granted. You wake up, go to school or work, hang out your friends, spend time with your family, spend hours on Instagram or watching Netflix, and go about your typical day again and again. At 13, 15 or even 18 you might figure that you'll live to be at least 70 or 80 - but really that's no guarantee.

Last month, a 17-year-old and an 18-year-old - both high school students in Texas - were killed in a fiery car accident. About two weeks ago,  a family friend's son died from cancer. Just last week, a 2-year-old girl was found dead in rural Pennsylvania. 

People die every day - young and old.  The truth is: Yes we do have our whole lives ahead of us, but none of us actually know how long that is. That's a reality not meant to be scary but meant to make you think - what am I actually doing with my time?

Ephesians 5:15-16 says "Be very careful, then, how you live - not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil."

I love the part where it urges us to make the most of every opportunity. Each day, each breath really is a blessing. The thing about time is -  it's so precious and once it's used up, we won't get it back. So why waste it? Let's instead cherish our time and remember to live each moment keeping God first.

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