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No! For Our Own Good

Ashley Jefferson


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Think about when you were younger and your parents said "no" to that toy you wanted at the store or "no" to staying up past your bedtime or "no" to having candy for breakfast. Not happy with the answer, most kids would probably kick, scream and cry in hopes of getting their way.

Now fast forward to present day and maybe you heard "no" to the job you interviewed for or maybe you heard "no" from the college you applied to or maybe you got a "no" to something you've been praying for.

"No" isn't a word we like to hear at any age especially when it's regarding something we want. But the reality also is that at some point or another, there are a number of ways we will be told "no" in life. And as much as we might want to throw a tantrum like a little kid, we know that's not an option.

Often time hearing "no" can sting and we are left feeling disappointed and rejected. However if we change our perspective, hearing "no" isn't always a bad thing. In fact, sometimes rejection can be a blessing in disguise.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

We may not always understand it when it happens but know that inasmuch as God opens doors that no one can shut, He also shuts doors that no one can open. Just like a good parent, His plan is never to hurt us by saying "no." Instead, when He closes a door, it's to lead us to something much better - the open door He's had waiting for us all along.

 

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Faith > Feelings

Ashley Jefferson

As females we are naturally emotional. We can cry, get angry, be over-dramatic and then be overjoyed - sometimes all in the same day. Emotions aren't a bad thing, after all it's one of the many things that make us human. But we have to remember not to let our emotions always guide our actions.

The world says to "follow your heart" but how often have your feelings led you to make a decision you later regretted? The Bible reminds us of that in Proverbs 19:21 "Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails."

Our feelings waver, fluctuate, shift and change more than the weather. We weren't meant to let them be our primary source of direction - they are not stable enough. But God is constant, stable, unwavering and unchanging - and we can always depend on Him. 

Think about it, God has been there to wake us up, to protect us, and to bless us in so many ways - each and every day without fail. And yet we put more trust in ourselves and how we feel rather than in Him who already knows what's best.

Trust is hard for most people and that's probably because we've all had situations where our trust was broken. But we have to remember that God isn't the same as people. People fail us every day and we fail ourselves but God cannot fail, has never failed and will never fail. 

It may not be easy but no matter how we feel, it's always better to choose faith in God over our feelings.

 

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Don't Fake It And Still Expect To Make It

Ashley Jefferson

"Just fake it till you make it!" How many times have you heard this before? It sounds simple enough but that doesn't mean it actually works. Think about it...

If you're coughing and sneezing, by pretending like you're not sick, will you suddenly be all better?

If you're confused about something you learned in school, by pretending like you understand it, will you automatically pass the test?

No matter what the situation is, you can't keep pretending you're okay when you're not - that's called being in denial. 

Ignoring a problem and acting like it's not there is not a solution.  All that does is hurt yourself and potentially those around you in the long run.

Instead what are we to do?

The only way to truly get help for something is to first address that you have a problem in the first place. Know that it's okay to ask for help because that's exactly what God wants us to do.  

1 Peter 5:7 (AMP) says "casting all your cares [all your anxieties, all your worries and all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares about you [with deepest affection, and watches over you very carefully]."

No matter how big or how small the issue is, God really cares. It could be a class you're struggling with in school to a fight with your friend or much bigger like a major medical crisis or even the death of a family member.  

Whatever it is, don't be in denial and don't try to fake it instead be honest and upfront because asking God for help is the only way to guarantee you'll make it.

 

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Beware of Cuffin Season

Ashley Jefferson

Ahhhh September! It means no more staying up late watching TV for hours but instead getting up early and going back to school. It means trading in summer shorts and sandals for fall sweaters and boots. But those aren't the only things changing.

As the leaves begin to turn pretty shades of orange and the smell of pumpkin spice fills the air, it also means the start of what's called "cuffin season." Hmmm...you know what I'm talking about - it's that time of year when single people look to get in a relationship so they have someone to cuddle up with as the weather gets colder.

As girls, it's hard when you see your friends all coupled up, holding hands, posting pics on Instagram....they look happy, they look in love and you want that too.

Proverbs 4:23 says "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

I'm not sure where the whole "cuffin season" idea came from, but one thing's for sure - it's very dangerous, especially when you're young. Think about it, "cuffin season" encourages you to get into a relationship for all the wrong reasons. 

God loves us and doesn't want to see us give our hearts away to this guy and that guy.  That's why we have to be careful. It might seem like fun and games, but jumping into a relationship just satisfy the "lonely bug" is never the answer.

Although "cuffin season" is only meant to be during the fall/winter, what happens in a few short months can lead to long-term heartbreak and who wants that? So girl no matter what time of year it is, never forget to guard your heart.

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Don't Put Your Selfie At Risk

Ashley Jefferson

Selfies, they're all fun and games right? That is until somebody gets hurt.

According to Mashable, a new report says that in 2015, selfies have killed more people than sharks! This year alone, 12 people have died in selfie accidents, compared to only eight people who have died from shark attacks.

The average person may take a quick photo while on vacation, maybe out with friends, or maybe because they like their outfit of the day. But nowadays you'll find people going to great lengths just to get the right shot.

Some people have taken selfies with wild animals, high in the air, or even with weapons. Sadly in the world we live in, many of these photos have gone viral. What's sadder though is that lives are being put at risk and even worse, some lives have even been lost...all in the name of a selfie.

I'm sure the 12 people who have died this year, as well as the 11 others who died in 2014,  didn't anticipate their actions leading to death. But in light of that, it reminds us that life is precious. Life is a gift from God - something that we should not take for granted and that we should handle with care.

And when you're willing to put your life in danger, all to take a "cool selfie," it begs the question, is the risk really worth it?

 

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