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Amy's Tragic Death: Something Has To Change

Ashley Jefferson

Up until last week, 16-year-old Amy Inita Joyner-Francis was just a normal teenage girl but that all changed on one fateful morning. On Thursday, April 21st Amy, a student at Howard High School of Technology in Delaware, was brutally beaten by a group of girls in the school bathroom. She was so badly injured that she was rushed to an area hospital where she died. 

I'm sure Amy, her family and friends never would've imagined her life coming to an end so soon and so violently. She was beaten to death at her school seemingly at the hands of her fellow classmates allegedly over a boy and it was even caught on cell phone video. There are so many things that make Amy's death such a tragedy.

First, Amy lost her life at the hands of other female students. Being catty or petty is a not so flattering category that unfortunately too many of us females fall into. It's not unheard of to have young girls (and even older women) fighting, arguing and bickering usually over something not worth it in the long run. We have enough in this world that degrades and belittles us. No we may not always get along with each other but regardless as females we should strive not to tear each other down, but to build each other up.

Secondly, the fight was allegedly over a boy. Girls fighting over boys is not new. It probably happens at high schools across America almost every day. However how many of those incidents end with a young girl losing her life? NO BOY is worth fighting over. Contrary to what you may believe when you're a starry eyed teenager, boys really do come and go. He may like you today and then like the next girl tomorrow. Who cares! You're in high school and have far more important things to focus on. A boy is not worth jeopardizing your future and for those involved, it definitely wasn't worth Amy losing her life.

Last but not least, it was caught on video. Fights and other tragedies being caught on video is a sad sign of the world we live in. Youtube, Vine, Instagram and other social media platforms are flooded with them. People often post, repost, watch and like these videos and sometimes they even go viral as they are viewed as entertaining and funny. There is NOTHING funny or entertaining about teenagers, children (and even adults) fighting each other like animals. The truth is it's sick - it's sick that instead of calling for help, people are more inclined to use their phones to record someone else getting hurt. In Amy's case, it's sick that someone would find it amusing to record what turned out to be the last few moments of a young girl's life.

We can agree that Amy's death was indeed a tragedy - it's touched people all across the globe. People are mourning, people are speaking out about it, but the truth is eventually many people, except those who were closest to her, will move on. The story will fade from the headlines and then what? We can't wait until another tragedy strikes to decide enough is enough. Somehow, someway we have to do something to solve what's become a sad norm in our society. We can't just talk about it, we have to step up and do something about it and it has to start now - before another parent has to bury their child because of senseless violence. 

Accomplishing Your #LifeGoals

Ashley Jefferson

#LifeGoals - everybody has them right?  Maybe you want to finish high school and go to college? Maybe you want to start your own business? Maybe you want to be a doctor? Maybe you want to travel? Whatever goals you've set, when you're young sometimes you can't quite see all the necessary steps it will take to accomplish them. Whether you've got a list a mile long or you're still not sure what you want to do, there are three key factors to keep in mind when it comes to reaching your goals:

1. Keep God First: You are not here by accident - God created you for a reason. Think about your gifts, talents and the things you enjoy doing. He put those in you as tools to use to fulfill your purpose and to accomplish your goals. But you have to keep Him first in order to be successful.

2. Get Your Education: School doesn’t stop at high school, that’s just the first step. College is a great next step. Yes it can be expensive but there are many options that can help. (Ex: Going to community college for 2 years then transferring to finish up your last 2 years). Other options include trade/vocational schools as well. Whether you want to be an entrepreneur, an artist, a lawyer or anything else, education is key. How can you be successful in something without first being knowledgeable?

3. Stay Focused: There are so many different things that can distract you. Think about the choices you make, because there will always be a consequence to your actions. One decision (good or bad) can affect the rest of your life.

·      Friends: Choose your friends wisely and don’t get caught up hanging with the wrong crowd. Make sure you surround yourself with people who influence you in a positive way.

·      Boys: Don’t be fooled, they really do come and go and it’s not the end of the world when they leave. Don’t let a relationship hold you back from your future. If someone really loves you, they wouldn’t want to distract you but they would support you in accomplishing your goals.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord. “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." At the end of the day, remember that God's got your back. So no matter how hard it gets, how far away your goals seem or how many people tell you it's impossible, do not get discouraged but keep pushing and He will make your dreams a reality.

 

 #befabulous

 

No! For Our Own Good

Ashley Jefferson


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Think about when you were younger and your parents said "no" to that toy you wanted at the store or "no" to staying up past your bedtime or "no" to having candy for breakfast. Not happy with the answer, most kids would probably kick, scream and cry in hopes of getting their way.

Now fast forward to present day and maybe you heard "no" to the job you interviewed for or maybe you heard "no" from the college you applied to or maybe you got a "no" to something you've been praying for.

"No" isn't a word we like to hear at any age especially when it's regarding something we want. But the reality also is that at some point or another, there are a number of ways we will be told "no" in life. And as much as we might want to throw a tantrum like a little kid, we know that's not an option.

Often time hearing "no" can sting and we are left feeling disappointed and rejected. However if we change our perspective, hearing "no" isn't always a bad thing. In fact, sometimes rejection can be a blessing in disguise.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

We may not always understand it when it happens but know that inasmuch as God opens doors that no one can shut, He also shuts doors that no one can open. Just like a good parent, His plan is never to hurt us by saying "no." Instead, when He closes a door, it's to lead us to something much better - the open door He's had waiting for us all along.

 

#befabulous

Faith > Feelings

Ashley Jefferson

As females we are naturally emotional. We can cry, get angry, be over-dramatic and then be overjoyed - sometimes all in the same day. Emotions aren't a bad thing, after all it's one of the many things that make us human. But we have to remember not to let our emotions always guide our actions.

The world says to "follow your heart" but how often have your feelings led you to make a decision you later regretted? The Bible reminds us of that in Proverbs 19:21 "Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails."

Our feelings waver, fluctuate, shift and change more than the weather. We weren't meant to let them be our primary source of direction - they are not stable enough. But God is constant, stable, unwavering and unchanging - and we can always depend on Him. 

Think about it, God has been there to wake us up, to protect us, and to bless us in so many ways - each and every day without fail. And yet we put more trust in ourselves and how we feel rather than in Him who already knows what's best.

Trust is hard for most people and that's probably because we've all had situations where our trust was broken. But we have to remember that God isn't the same as people. People fail us every day and we fail ourselves but God cannot fail, has never failed and will never fail. 

It may not be easy but no matter how we feel, it's always better to choose faith in God over our feelings.

 

#befabulous

Choose To Be Different

Ashley Jefferson

Girl, did you know that you weren't just born by accident? Nope not at all!

In fact, each of us has a God-given purpose. While each purpose is unique to each individual, there is one thing they have in common: to make a difference in the world. 

Romans 12:2 says "And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God."

So what does that mean?

Well, as a Christian (a believer and follower of Christ), we can't do the same thing and expect different results (some say that's the definition of insanity).  In order to make a difference, we have to first be different.

Being different means staying home when your friends want you to sneak out. Being different means telling the truth when you little brother or little sister just lied to your parents.

Being different means walking away instead of getting into an argument or a fight. Being different is choosing to do the right thing when the wrong thing is staring you smack dab in the face. 

Sometimes it's hard and sometimes being different can feel uncomfortable but don't worry yourself about trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.

 

#befabulous

Every Day Beautiful

Ashley Jefferson

 

It's Wednesday, which means as you scroll through your Instagram timeline, you're bound to see plenty of pics of beautiful women of all ages and races - some famous and some not.

Maybe someone picked you or maybe not. But as you look at all the #wcw posts, do you find yourself comparing how you look to the picture in front of you?

Maybe she has longer hair? Maybe her eyebrows are on fleek? Maybe she has lighter skin? And before you know it, you start picking yourself apart.

Psalm 139:14 says, "I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well." 

Understand this, you will never look like the next girl and you were never meant to. Each and every one of us is uniquely hand-crafted by God. Don't let someone else's beauty cause you to question your own and if no one else tells you, remember you are beautiful this Wednesday and every day.

#befabulous