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What Kind of Reflection Are You?

Ashley Jefferson

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Growing up my mom would say "Remember who you are and to whom you belong."

She would often say this whenever I was going somewhere - whether it was to the mall with friends, maybe out with a guy, or even when I went away to college.

As my parent, she knew that she did her best to teach me right from wrong and to instill in me high standards and morals.

My actions, no matter where I go, ultimately reflect how I was raised and this phrase of hers was basically my mom's way of reminding me not to forget all I've been taught.

As a child, I used to think this saying only applied to me being a reflection of my parents. However as I got older, I realized that I can look at it also as it applies to God.

Genesis 1:27 says "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them."

God created us in His image and that means we are a reflection of Him too.That's pretty big but the problem is how often have we kept this in mind?

Think about the last time you did something you knew was wrong but chose to do anyway? In doing whatever it was, what kind of reflection were you?

And that's a question we should keep in mind daily: What kind of reflection am I? Because it'll help us everywhere we go and in everything we do, to remember who we are and to Whom we belong.

 

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No! For Our Own Good

Ashley Jefferson


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Think about when you were younger and your parents said "no" to that toy you wanted at the store or "no" to staying up past your bedtime or "no" to having candy for breakfast. Not happy with the answer, most kids would probably kick, scream and cry in hopes of getting their way.

Now fast forward to present day and maybe you heard "no" to the job you interviewed for or maybe you heard "no" from the college you applied to or maybe you got a "no" to something you've been praying for.

"No" isn't a word we like to hear at any age especially when it's regarding something we want. But the reality also is that at some point or another, there are a number of ways we will be told "no" in life. And as much as we might want to throw a tantrum like a little kid, we know that's not an option.

Often time hearing "no" can sting and we are left feeling disappointed and rejected. However if we change our perspective, hearing "no" isn't always a bad thing. In fact, sometimes rejection can be a blessing in disguise.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

We may not always understand it when it happens but know that inasmuch as God opens doors that no one can shut, He also shuts doors that no one can open. Just like a good parent, His plan is never to hurt us by saying "no." Instead, when He closes a door, it's to lead us to something much better - the open door He's had waiting for us all along.

 

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Help Me! I'm Drowning

Ashley Jefferson

Have you ever wanted something so bad that you would do almost anything to have it?

Maybe you compromised yourself to get that guy to notice you...maybe you cheated on a test to get a passing grade...maybe you lied during an interview to get a job?

We've all had times where we were so focused on getting what we wanted that we let ourselves get lost in the process. We convince ourselves that since it's not bad to want a boyfriend, a good grade or a job that it's okay to go for it.

Yes it's okay to want these things but it's not okay when we are willing to get them - by ANY means necessary.

Proverbs 19:21 says, "Many are the plans in a person's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails."

Trying to get what we want - in our own way and without seeking God - leaves us feeling exhausted, stressed and overwhelmed. Think about it - it's like we're drowning - drowning in the very thing we wanted to so much.

God loves us too much to let us drown in the very thing we thought was so good for us. Yes, at times He'll let us go into the water without a life jacket but just when we think we're in too deep, and the water starts to cover our heads, He's right there to rescue us before we drown.

I know what you're thinking...yes of course God could stop us from going into the water and getting in over our heads in the first place. However remember that God is our Heavenly Father and even our earthly parents known that sometimes the only way we learn is the hard way. 

 

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Clouds Can't Stop The Sun

Ashley Jefferson

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I hopped in the car and was on my way to work on a Saturday afternoon. Although work wasn't where I wanted to be headed, I tried my best to have a positive attitude about it. It was nice and warm when I got in the car but about 10 minutes into my drive, the clouds thickened up and it started to rain. Now it wasn't the wild thunderstorm type of rain - more of a steady sprinkle - but it was still raining nonetheless.

As I continued on my way, I drove by people out walking, suddenly scrambling to take cover. I drove by people at a park, suddenly scrambling to get to their cars. I drove by an outdoor flea market with sellers suddenly scrambling to pack up their merchandise. All this because of the rain.

Now as I continued driving, I looked up and peaking through the rain clouds was a glimmer of the sun.  There in that moment God taught me a lesson. The sun was out all this time but all people were focused on was the rain. How often is that the case in life? Got problems? Don't we all - but even in the darkest of days, there is still sun.

The Bible says in Romans 8:28 (NKJV) "And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose."

No matter what may happen in life, there is always something good in it. Sometimes we can't see it - but other times we don't see it because we're focused on the wrong thing. Instead of letting things upset us, or make us angry, worried or afraid, if we stop for a second and look hard enough, we'll see that even the rain can't stop the sun from peeking through.

 

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STOP Overthinking!

Ashley Jefferson

Here's some food for thought...

In any given day, how often are your thoughts fixed on your problems, on your future, on your boyfriend (or maybe that guy you like), or even who got in a fight with who on the reality show you love to watch.

Let's snack on this...at some point or another we're all been guilty of thinking too much. Now you could argue that overthinking is normal for most people. Many times the things we think about aren't bad in themselves (family, friends, school, work, etc.). However it becomes a problem when those things consumer our thoughts. That's when they become like a snowball rolling down a hill and grow into something much bigger like worry, stress and fear.

God knows us so well. He knew that, no matter what our age, we would have moments like this and His Word gives clear advice on how to handle these situations.

Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things."

Now picture this: What if we took all those bad thoughts, all those fearful thoughts, all those worrisome thoughts, all those stressful thoughts, and all those thoughts stealing our attention and replaced them with truthful thoughts, pure thoughts, lovely thoughts, praiseworthy thoughts, etc. How much more peaceful would our minds be? How much more joyful, content and worry-free would we be?

So as you go through the rest of your week, I challenge you (and myself) to STOP OVERTHINKING!

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