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The Be Fab Blog is your place for discussion with articles on a variety of topics including dating and relationships, school, health and wellness, inspiration, news, social media, fashion and style as well as real-life advice.

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New Year, New Me?

Ashley Jefferson

"New year, new me!" How many times did you or someone you know say those exact words at the start of a new year. There were probably good intentions behind it and maybe we really want to but how often do we actually change? 

Each year we tell ourselves that next year will be different. We're gonna finally lose weight, we're gonna do better in school, we're gonna really focus on God more, we're gonna do this and we're gonna do that. However, a lot of us end the year in the same place we started - not having made any progress towards bettering ourselves, growing as a person and accomplishing our goals and the cycle continues.  

But why? Why is it that, according to statistics, only 8% of us who make new year's resolutions are actually successful in keeping them? Is it that out goals are too big? Is it that we don't really try? Or maybe because we don't consider everything that it takes.

Anything worth having is worth making sacrifices for. Take professional athletes for example. To be able to make it to the Olympics is a great accomplishment and that's the part we see on the outside. What we don't see are the things they have to give up in order to reach their goal.

Whether it's losing weight or growing closer to God, we can't move forward if we're still holding onto old things. We have to actually let some things go.

Philippians 3:13 (NLT) says “No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,”

Moving forward requires sacrifice. That means we have to really make up our minds to let go of old habits, old friends, old thoughts, old attitudes and old ways and leave them behind us 2016. Then we can really say "New year, new me" and mean it. 

 

 

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Fab Friday Spotlight: Harriet Tubman

Ashley Jefferson

Harriet Tubman - she's one of the most well-respected figures in history and now more than 100 years after her death and she's making history yet again. It was announced this week that Tubman will be replacing President Andrew Jackson on the front of the $20 bill. The redesign will take place over the next few years and the Harriet Tubman $20 will be officially revealed in 2020.

It's a honor well-deserved for a woman who lived a life that we could barely imagine. She was born into slavery along with her entire family. As a child she was severely beaten by her masters and suffered head wounds that caused her to endure seizures, headaches and epilepsy for the rest of her life.

It was in her 20s that Tubman decided enough was enough. She, along with her brothers, made an escape from their plantation in 1849. Tubman made it all the way to Philadelphia but something wasn't right. 

"I was a stranger in a strange land. My father, my mother, my brothers, and sisters, and friends were [in Maryland]. But I was free, and they should be free," she said years later.

Tubman knew that freedom wasn't for her alone and she was willing to risk her life for it. With the help of anti-slavery activists and the Underground Railroad, she made several trips back and forth to lead her parents, her relatives and countless other slaves to safety. Even more amazing - neither Tubman nor the escaped slaves she helped were ever recaptured.

Tubman went on to play an active role helping the Union in the Civil War and supported the fight for women to have the right to vote. She died in 1913 and was buried with military honors.

“I would fight for liberty so long as my strength lasted," Tubman said looking back over her life. We salute Harriet Tubman because fighting for liberty is exactly what she did and now her pioneering legacy will live on even further for future generations.

Learn more about Harriet Tubman

 

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No! For Our Own Good

Ashley Jefferson


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Think about when you were younger and your parents said "no" to that toy you wanted at the store or "no" to staying up past your bedtime or "no" to having candy for breakfast. Not happy with the answer, most kids would probably kick, scream and cry in hopes of getting their way.

Now fast forward to present day and maybe you heard "no" to the job you interviewed for or maybe you heard "no" from the college you applied to or maybe you got a "no" to something you've been praying for.

"No" isn't a word we like to hear at any age especially when it's regarding something we want. But the reality also is that at some point or another, there are a number of ways we will be told "no" in life. And as much as we might want to throw a tantrum like a little kid, we know that's not an option.

Often time hearing "no" can sting and we are left feeling disappointed and rejected. However if we change our perspective, hearing "no" isn't always a bad thing. In fact, sometimes rejection can be a blessing in disguise.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

We may not always understand it when it happens but know that inasmuch as God opens doors that no one can shut, He also shuts doors that no one can open. Just like a good parent, His plan is never to hurt us by saying "no." Instead, when He closes a door, it's to lead us to something much better - the open door He's had waiting for us all along.

 

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Faith > Feelings

Ashley Jefferson

As females we are naturally emotional. We can cry, get angry, be over-dramatic and then be overjoyed - sometimes all in the same day. Emotions aren't a bad thing, after all it's one of the many things that make us human. But we have to remember not to let our emotions always guide our actions.

The world says to "follow your heart" but how often have your feelings led you to make a decision you later regretted? The Bible reminds us of that in Proverbs 19:21 "Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails."

Our feelings waver, fluctuate, shift and change more than the weather. We weren't meant to let them be our primary source of direction - they are not stable enough. But God is constant, stable, unwavering and unchanging - and we can always depend on Him. 

Think about it, God has been there to wake us up, to protect us, and to bless us in so many ways - each and every day without fail. And yet we put more trust in ourselves and how we feel rather than in Him who already knows what's best.

Trust is hard for most people and that's probably because we've all had situations where our trust was broken. But we have to remember that God isn't the same as people. People fail us every day and we fail ourselves but God cannot fail, has never failed and will never fail. 

It may not be easy but no matter how we feel, it's always better to choose faith in God over our feelings.

 

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Choose To Be Different

Ashley Jefferson

Girl, did you know that you weren't just born by accident? Nope not at all!

In fact, each of us has a God-given purpose. While each purpose is unique to each individual, there is one thing they have in common: to make a difference in the world. 

Romans 12:2 says "And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God."

So what does that mean?

Well, as a Christian (a believer and follower of Christ), we can't do the same thing and expect different results (some say that's the definition of insanity).  In order to make a difference, we have to first be different.

Being different means staying home when your friends want you to sneak out. Being different means telling the truth when you little brother or little sister just lied to your parents.

Being different means walking away instead of getting into an argument or a fight. Being different is choosing to do the right thing when the wrong thing is staring you smack dab in the face. 

Sometimes it's hard and sometimes being different can feel uncomfortable but don't worry yourself about trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.

 

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Pretty Is As Pretty Does

Ashley Jefferson

You ever met someone and their outfit of the day was fabulous from head to toe but their attitude was horrible and you're left thinking, "How could someone so pretty be so ugly? It reminds me a lot of the phrase "Pretty is as pretty does." I remember hearing some variation of that saying as a kid but it wasn't until I got a little older that it really made sense. 

For all the girls out there who spend the majority of their day in front of a mirror or taking selfies, I've got news for ya - looks aren't everything. No matter how much effort we put into how we look, it's our personality, our character and how we treat people that determines whether or not they want to be around us. 

Yes God created us beautifully and there is nothing wrong with embracing that in our style, hair and makeup. However it becomes a big problem when we put so much effort into the outside that we neglect the inside.

The Bible says in Proverbs 31:30, "Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."

Ladies we are so much more than our looks. Yes...I'm talking to you - you are more than your 22 inch Brazilian weave, more than your favorite Mac lipstick, more than your fresh out the salon manicure, more than your straight off the runway clothes - yes you are so much more than all of that.

The saying is true - "It's what's on the inside that counts." And nothing counts more on the inside than Jesus Christ. A true relationship with God is the first place you should start. With Him, your true beauty will shine from the inside out.

 

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Every Day Beautiful

Ashley Jefferson

 

It's Wednesday, which means as you scroll through your Instagram timeline, you're bound to see plenty of pics of beautiful women of all ages and races - some famous and some not.

Maybe someone picked you or maybe not. But as you look at all the #wcw posts, do you find yourself comparing how you look to the picture in front of you?

Maybe she has longer hair? Maybe her eyebrows are on fleek? Maybe she has lighter skin? And before you know it, you start picking yourself apart.

Psalm 139:14 says, "I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well." 

Understand this, you will never look like the next girl and you were never meant to. Each and every one of us is uniquely hand-crafted by God. Don't let someone else's beauty cause you to question your own and if no one else tells you, remember you are beautiful this Wednesday and every day.

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