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The Be Fab Blog is your place for discussion with articles on a variety of topics including dating and relationships, school, health and wellness, inspiration, news, social media, fashion and style as well as real-life advice.

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Beware of Cuffin Season

Ashley Jefferson

Ahhhh September! It means no more staying up late watching TV for hours but instead getting up early and going back to school. It means trading in summer shorts and sandals for fall sweaters and boots. But those aren't the only things changing.

As the leaves begin to turn pretty shades of orange and the smell of pumpkin spice fills the air, it also means the start of what's called "cuffin season." Hmmm...you know what I'm talking about - it's that time of year when single people look to get in a relationship so they have someone to cuddle up with as the weather gets colder.

As girls, it's hard when you see your friends all coupled up, holding hands, posting pics on Instagram....they look happy, they look in love and you want that too.

Proverbs 4:23 says "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

I'm not sure where the whole "cuffin season" idea came from, but one thing's for sure - it's very dangerous, especially when you're young. Think about it, "cuffin season" encourages you to get into a relationship for all the wrong reasons. 

God loves us and doesn't want to see us give our hearts away to this guy and that guy.  That's why we have to be careful. It might seem like fun and games, but jumping into a relationship just satisfy the "lonely bug" is never the answer.

Although "cuffin season" is only meant to be during the fall/winter, what happens in a few short months can lead to long-term heartbreak and who wants that? So girl no matter what time of year it is, never forget to guard your heart.

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Who Really Has The Keys?

Ashley Jefferson

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Picture this: You texted that guy you've been eyeing for months and you're waiting for him to text you back. 5 minutes turns into 10 minutes which turns into 15 minutes and before you know it - a whole hours has passed by and still no reply.

So how do you respond? Do you start worrying, saying to yourself, "Why didn't he respond? Is he ignoring me? Is he with someone else?"

Or do you get mad and start talking bad about him, saying, "I can't believe he didn't respond! He's such a [insert a name here] and he's not that cute anyway!"

Or do you not let it bother you at all? (Be honest, I know I'm not the only one who has chosen one of the first 2 before) As females, we are naturally emotional - and it isn't just during that time of the month. But if we are honest with ourselves, too often we let our emotions be determined by people.

Psalm 118:8 says, "It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man."

That means we can't let our days be made or ruined by the actions of others. We can't control people but we can control how we choose to respond to them - even when they don't do the things we want them to.

We weren't made to depend on people - people are wishy-washy, they change more than the weather. Yes the guy you like starts out saying all the right things but he will eventually do something that irks you. On the other hand, God is truly dependable. He is constant - He is the same yesterday, today and forever (see Hebrews 13:8).  Therefore let's pickpocket the person who we gave the keys to and put the key to our happiness, the key to our hearts into the hands of God - He's the rightful owner anyway.

 

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Don't Ignore The Red Flags

Ashley Jefferson

Okay - be honest - how many times have you felt like something wasn't right in a relationship but you chose to ignore the red flags? You know what I mean - maybe it's something he said or maybe it's something he did. you know it's not right but you convince yourself that everything is fine.

That's a classic case of "wearing love blinders" - when we're blinded by "being in love" and often times it's with someone that we only "think" we know. After all, he says all the right things and your heart skips a beat when he flashes that charming smile - so what could be the problem?

The problem is maybe there's more to him than meets the eye, or maybe he's influencing you in a bad way, or maybe he's just not the right person for you. Whatever it maybe, if God wants someone out of your life, trust that it's not to harm you but to help you.

We may act surprised but God warns us, often times more than once, and we fail to see it. (If you're asking why, just refer back to the "love blinders.") We do everything in our power to hold onto someone because we don't want to accept that maybe just maybe  - it's just not meant to be.

Proverbs 19:21 says, "Many are the plans in a person's heart but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails."

The truth is, if God wants someone out of our lives, He will remove them - no matter how much we kick and scream. If we ignore the red flags long enough, God will take drastic measures and it's usually not pretty.

Many times we're left heartbroken and upset, when really, had we listened in the first place, it would have saved us a lot of trouble. When we're young (and even when we're old), we may not understand why the "right one" ends up being the "wrong one." However we have to accept that - no it's not the end of the world and yes we can move on. And most importantly, we have to trust that since God loves us enough to protect us from that person, that in His perfect timing, He'll bring someone into our lives who is better than we could ever imagine.

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