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No! For Our Own Good

Ashley Jefferson


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Think about when you were younger and your parents said "no" to that toy you wanted at the store or "no" to staying up past your bedtime or "no" to having candy for breakfast. Not happy with the answer, most kids would probably kick, scream and cry in hopes of getting their way.

Now fast forward to present day and maybe you heard "no" to the job you interviewed for or maybe you heard "no" from the college you applied to or maybe you got a "no" to something you've been praying for.

"No" isn't a word we like to hear at any age especially when it's regarding something we want. But the reality also is that at some point or another, there are a number of ways we will be told "no" in life. And as much as we might want to throw a tantrum like a little kid, we know that's not an option.

Often time hearing "no" can sting and we are left feeling disappointed and rejected. However if we change our perspective, hearing "no" isn't always a bad thing. In fact, sometimes rejection can be a blessing in disguise.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

We may not always understand it when it happens but know that inasmuch as God opens doors that no one can shut, He also shuts doors that no one can open. Just like a good parent, His plan is never to hurt us by saying "no." Instead, when He closes a door, it's to lead us to something much better - the open door He's had waiting for us all along.

 

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Faith > Feelings

Ashley Jefferson

As females we are naturally emotional. We can cry, get angry, be over-dramatic and then be overjoyed - sometimes all in the same day. Emotions aren't a bad thing, after all it's one of the many things that make us human. But we have to remember not to let our emotions always guide our actions.

The world says to "follow your heart" but how often have your feelings led you to make a decision you later regretted? The Bible reminds us of that in Proverbs 19:21 "Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails."

Our feelings waver, fluctuate, shift and change more than the weather. We weren't meant to let them be our primary source of direction - they are not stable enough. But God is constant, stable, unwavering and unchanging - and we can always depend on Him. 

Think about it, God has been there to wake us up, to protect us, and to bless us in so many ways - each and every day without fail. And yet we put more trust in ourselves and how we feel rather than in Him who already knows what's best.

Trust is hard for most people and that's probably because we've all had situations where our trust was broken. But we have to remember that God isn't the same as people. People fail us every day and we fail ourselves but God cannot fail, has never failed and will never fail. 

It may not be easy but no matter how we feel, it's always better to choose faith in God over our feelings.

 

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Help Me! I'm Drowning

Ashley Jefferson

Have you ever wanted something so bad that you would do almost anything to have it?

Maybe you compromised yourself to get that guy to notice you...maybe you cheated on a test to get a passing grade...maybe you lied during an interview to get a job?

We've all had times where we were so focused on getting what we wanted that we let ourselves get lost in the process. We convince ourselves that since it's not bad to want a boyfriend, a good grade or a job that it's okay to go for it.

Yes it's okay to want these things but it's not okay when we are willing to get them - by ANY means necessary.

Proverbs 19:21 says, "Many are the plans in a person's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails."

Trying to get what we want - in our own way and without seeking God - leaves us feeling exhausted, stressed and overwhelmed. Think about it - it's like we're drowning - drowning in the very thing we wanted to so much.

God loves us too much to let us drown in the very thing we thought was so good for us. Yes, at times He'll let us go into the water without a life jacket but just when we think we're in too deep, and the water starts to cover our heads, He's right there to rescue us before we drown.

I know what you're thinking...yes of course God could stop us from going into the water and getting in over our heads in the first place. However remember that God is our Heavenly Father and even our earthly parents known that sometimes the only way we learn is the hard way. 

 

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Clouds Can't Stop The Sun

Ashley Jefferson

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I hopped in the car and was on my way to work on a Saturday afternoon. Although work wasn't where I wanted to be headed, I tried my best to have a positive attitude about it. It was nice and warm when I got in the car but about 10 minutes into my drive, the clouds thickened up and it started to rain. Now it wasn't the wild thunderstorm type of rain - more of a steady sprinkle - but it was still raining nonetheless.

As I continued on my way, I drove by people out walking, suddenly scrambling to take cover. I drove by people at a park, suddenly scrambling to get to their cars. I drove by an outdoor flea market with sellers suddenly scrambling to pack up their merchandise. All this because of the rain.

Now as I continued driving, I looked up and peaking through the rain clouds was a glimmer of the sun.  There in that moment God taught me a lesson. The sun was out all this time but all people were focused on was the rain. How often is that the case in life? Got problems? Don't we all - but even in the darkest of days, there is still sun.

The Bible says in Romans 8:28 (NKJV) "And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose."

No matter what may happen in life, there is always something good in it. Sometimes we can't see it - but other times we don't see it because we're focused on the wrong thing. Instead of letting things upset us, or make us angry, worried or afraid, if we stop for a second and look hard enough, we'll see that even the rain can't stop the sun from peeking through.

 

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You're All I Need

Ashley Jefferson

Have you ever been in a place where everything in your life seems to be going wrong? You name it, it happened and all in the same week. And after everything that's happened, you feel like you have no one to talk to - your friends aren't answering your texts, your family is too busy and you can't seem to find anyone to talk to.

So what do you do in that place you're in? Often times these are the moments we call out to God, but it's usually as a last resort.

Psalm 73:25 says "Whom have I in heaven but You? And there is none upon earth that I desire besides You."

The moments in life that drive us to God are actually blessings in disguise. Life happens everyday and as much as we would like to, no matter how old we get, we will never have all the answers. It's in those moments when we genuinely say, "God you're all I have left," that we realize that God is all we ever need.

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